What does it mean to love ourselves?
To truly see and accept oneself as we are as a whole, working on our habits and behaviors to line up with our intentions to be pure from our soul and motives in operating towards others.
To approach yourself like a nurturing mother - with tenderness, compassion, and kindness.
Tenderness
When you make a mistake, be that gentle voice that envelopes you to be forgiven but still expects you to learn from that mistake to do better, be better. Grant yourself grace and understanding that still does not excuse you.
Compassion
When you are hurting and your wounds are painfully surfacing to begin the healing process, be compassionate to quietly be the arms around your shoulders that allows you to sob it out. Allows you to heal at your pace, in your own way, and for however long it takes.
Kindness
When you look in the mirror at what you see as a disheveled mess, be the woman behind you that reminds you that you are not defined to this moment of mess. Because you are made of all your moments and when the pixels all come together to form who you are - you are beautifully made in your soul as a whole. You are this strong, resilient woman that is standing behind you. You are guided by the love you have in your heart in all that you are and do - and that will always define you beautiful.
Self-love is knowing yourself so well that you are able to pinpoint and fulfill your own needs effectively. When you love yourself so much, you operate in internal abundance and are able to give of yourself to others in a balanced way.
This giving might come in the form of your time, energy, or resources that is not attached with any motives or intentions except to give freely from the overfill of your cup. When you love yourself well, you then understand and desire for others to feel and be so loved.
You become one less person that operates in hurtful ways or mode of being.
Self-love means seeing yourself for all that you truly are, operating in a self-aware manner that is loving towards the self. You hold yourself accountable so as to self-improve and strive to be your best self, willing to work on those parts that you try to hide away in shame and guilt.
When you have done this for yourself, you then are able to impart the same love towards others. To gain understanding that leaves no room for judgment as you approach others with the tenderness, compassion, and kindness you have done for yourself.
Learn to Love Yourself by...
Accepting yourself wholly in all the contrasts - your good / your bad, your light / your dark, your positives / your negatives
Becoming secure in self where the opinions or judgments from the external world does not shake up your inner world
Understanding your limitations, weaknesses, strengths - your true nature within
Being self-aware of the way you affect others and caring to be a positive effect
Making changes where you may be operating in a way that hurts others unintentionally
We must find love & respect within ourselves before we can expect it from others. We must love ourselves so well to be proud of our positive traits, to acknowledge the bad that can be worked on to purge out, to be gentle with our mistakes and shortcomings.
Only when we love ourselves so deeply can we know when we receive that love from another on the outside, reflecting back to us the kind of love that we already know is good for us because we have given ourselves the love that has been good to self.
Freeing yourself from layers of ego-protection - which only stifles your soul in the confinements of a certain identity it built up around to keep you in a sense of safety.
Nurturing our soul with a life that speaks true to us - whatever activities, people, surroundings spark happiness and joy within is your soul nudging you that it is good for you and will find nourishment to replenish your soul. One happy choice at a time.
We cannot nurture others or our external world when we have not done so for ourselves within. We cannot show up and be present for others when we are so preoccupied with our thoughts and actions that leave us self-absorbed to only think of what inner issues or turmoils we are going through or trying to process.
The lighter we become in our consciousness through enlightenment, frees us from wasting energy being frustrated in self due to our self-sabotaging perception of the external world. Lift the heaviness by our thinking to see good in others, good in every situation, good in lessons learned - especially from the hard, painful lessons there is good because it means growth through something learned.
To love oneself so much that to be any less would be an offense to the soul.
May you truly come to love yourself, by knowing yourself - to just BE yourself.
You. are. enough.
With LOVE. Always,
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