When we don't heal after a relationship breakup and truly take that time to sit with ourselves and perhaps examine what went wrong, where we had a part in the fallout, or knowing what we do and do not want before entering another relationship, we then carry such baggage into the next relationship.
This is not fair to the next person as we can carry on dysfunctional behaviors that will lead this one right to the same end.
Breaking our own hearts over and over again, but also not doing this next person justice. It's not fair or right to use this person or rebound relationship to feel better about ourselves, feeling wanted, or serving as a distraction for us to be swept up again rather than coping healthily from the last breakup. Yes, by rebounding, you are using a person. We're entering such a relationship only thinking of ourselves, using this person as a temporary bandaid that we may bleed all over and end up hurting them - thus ourselves.
If we are looking for our next relationship to be deeper, more meaningful, and perhaps even long-lasting as The One - we must have met ourselves that much more deeper, that much more meaningful, and that much more committed within our soul. If we have not done this for ourselves, we then have not developed these tools to be able to create this with anyone else.
If we desire for someone to like us, come to love us, and secure a sense of commitment to us - we must first do and have that for ourselves.
Like yourself. Love yourself. Commit to yourself.
When you do this, you won't be involved in a relationship from a needy place of inner lack. You will be open to that next relationship that can only be as healthy as you are healthy within. You will be in the next relationship that your soul signals to the Universe that you are ready to fall right into and embrace with a lightness of heart that has healed any baggage off.
May you find yourself in love with yourself and with life so as to freely enjoy being in love with that next love of your life.
With LOVE. Always,
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